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Sunday, August 17, 2008

John Paul Three

Part of the busy-ness that has so affect this blog the past two months was the all-expenses-paid trip -- courtesy of the Extraordinary In-Laws -- to Cape Cod for two weeks at the beginning of July. They wanted all their daughters and their families together all at once (a bit masochistic of them, really, but who am I to turn my nose up at a solid week-and-a-half on Old Silver Beach?).

Anyway, that's were this recent picture of my son, John Paul, with his first cousin, Benedikt Markus, comes from (that's Johnny on the right, of course).



And here's part of them, playing in the sand.


In a conversation with Benedikt's mother (my sister-in-law, who is married to German national; they live in Berlin), she asked me if I spank my kids. "Just often enough that the threat of a spanking means something," I told her. She replied that in Germany, they would probably put me in jail for that. I calmly pointed out that in Germany I would already be in jail for homeschooling my children. This seemed to surprise her, but her husband agreed that it was true.

Anyway, two weeks later, first Benedikt, and then John Paul each turned three years old. Here's Johnny with his older brother and sister, the Extraordinary Boy and the Beauty Girl, aged approximately 7 and 5, respectively.

5 comments:

cubegirl said...

Gorgeous kids, Paul. Congrats on the new little one. :)

Ori Pomerantz said...

Cute!

Our kids earn spanking very rarely. One method we use to reinforce the fact that spanking is a possibility, without resorting to it, is humor.

For example, Itai often hears that he's been a not-bad boy, and that he's about to get a non-spanking that would really not hurt him. Then I proceed to give what would have been a very painful spanking, except that I give to the air. Or he is told he has two choices. One is something I know he wants, such as ice cream. The other is a spanking. I pretend to be shocked when he doesn't choose the spanking.

Jeff Arrowood said...

Beautiful family, Paul! Isn't it great to have wonderful inlaws? I love my wife's family.

I love your comment on spanking. That would be our philosophy too, though we never articulated it. We spank only when we need to get our children's attention NOW. Biting is one of the few automatically spankable offenses. Most of our "spanks" for other offenses are more "spotches" - quick, single swats on the butt to remind them who is the authority. We have not seen any signs that our children are growing to fear us - they are loved and they know it - or that spanking is teaching them to be violent.

Sharon said...

Love the pictures! You have a beautiful family.

It's interesting how others view spanking and homeschooling.
I'm sure I would have found myself in a lengthy debate!

cubegirl said...

Jeff.. as a mother to two.. may I suggest another approach to the biting thing?

All kids go through that phase, and I've heard to "bite them back" or spank or yell at them... or otherwise punish them.. which I think only proves painful or humiliating for them (and really.. at one or two years old.. they don't know any better).

So.. pretend to cry. When your baby bites you, cover your face, and cry. I guarantee you they will eventually start to console you. It teaches them empathy.. rather than violence (and I know, a spanking is not the same as a violent beating, but you know what I mean).

Anyway.. give it a try :)